Some people are ready, they act different, and to accept the new ways, like that they are connected to their parents or family.. rather than what they seemed like as a person, themselves.  To conduce an unfair judgment.  They know in some situations they will get something and I won't get a turn.  It's like all my successes go to people I've known, at least to a degree.  Like, I meet someone, and something is like we didn't meet normally but over my thus content family.