I think some people have to sit and watch someone who performs not because we need to learn from that person but because that person is having a moment but for a long time, not trying to say it in some bad way.  It's also not basically who you'd think it is.  So, we have to stifle our own voice and ability to function, one way or another.  I was prevented from having a good time and "relationship" with someone else because of this person, partially, in the end, I think, because that person was against it, and they are both older.