See, that's the answer, that I don't get to ever be happy in any question this person addresses.  I can never be right with the truth.  This person is "mean" to people, in how she acts, like that's the "mystery," that I'm wrong or they're wrong to feel good about what we do and who we are.  If we feel that way, it's like this person is saying no like a long mystery we cannot solve, at least that's how it is for me with being stalked.